This is not just for wives or husbands but it is for both husbands and wives. The husbands should seek to please their wives as much as the wives seek to please their husbands. Some husbands believe erroneously that it is the sole responsibility of their wives to seek to please them because they are the head. They believe whatever they do should be accepted without questioning. This not a balanced love relationship.
Each spouse should seek to express love in such a way that their spouse is pleased, happy and satisfied being married to them. When we seek to please our spouse this way, we are actually pleasing ourselves and making our lives more fulfilled. We are already made one flesh and the fulfillment of our spouse is our fulfillment. The unhappiness of our spouse is our unhappiness.
In God’s equation of marriage, this is the only acceptable way to enjoy and provoke blessings over your marriage. In this way, you will begin to chase ten thousand.
Some tips on how to please your spouse
1. Understand your spouse
By ‘understand’, I mean deliberately and intentionally seeking to know who your spouse is. I believe it is pride to believe you know and understand your spouse. Your spouse is a complete personality and entity with their own personalities, dreams, drives, mind sets, thought patterns, insecurities, likes, dislikes and so on.
To understand your spouse is to make effort to learn about all these. You will agree you will never stop learning and discovering your spouse.
2. Understand their temperament
Understanding your temperament is one very good foundation to help you begin to know and accept your spouse. You cannot change your spouse but you are expected to accept and honor their personality.
A study on temperaments will help you understand their peculiar character trait which will definitely be very different from yours. It is best you get the book but Tim Lahye, ‘ Why you act the way you do’.
3. Understand your spouse love language
Another very important aspect of your spouse you should study and seek to understand is their love language. Until you speak your spouse's love language, you are wasting time. It is like hitting a brick wall or flogging a dead horse.
Trying to express love to your spouse without understanding what they see or considered as love is a futile effort. We discussed about the different love languages two days ago. Please read the devotional. Also read the book by Gary Chapman ‘the 5 love languages.
To be continued ...
@DOCTOR LOVE
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